Help a Loved One

We would like to commend you for your bravery in seeking help for a loved one struggling with addiction. We want you to know that we’re here to support you in any way we can. At the Providence Projects, we have witnessed the ripple effect of addiction, it can destroy not only the addict but everyone around them too. Often, addiction is more detrimental for families than for the addict themselves, so we recognise that you need support too.

Below is a simple guide on what to do and what not to do when it comes to admitting a loved one to rehab. Our goal is to make the process as straightforward as possible for you and your family. We’re here to answer any questions you may have about your loved one entering rehab and to alleviate any fears. Additionally, we have included further information about the help we offer to families, such as Family Meetings and Family Days, dedicated specifically to supporting the loved ones of those in treatment.

We understand how intimidating this may seem, but please remember that you are making the best possible decision for your loved one – for their future, and your family as a whole. Below you will learn:

  • How We Keep Family Involved
  • Do’s and Don’ts
  • Family Interventions


Contact Providence Project’s team of experts for an initial assessment.

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How We Keep Family Involved – Importance of Boundaries:

Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is integral to successful recovery. When you call us, we will guide you in understanding these boundaries. Learning to set and respect limits fosters an environment conducive to healing. Our experienced team provides valuable insights and tools to navigate these essential aspects of the recovery process for both you and your loved one who will be in treatment in our clinic.

Support for Family Members:

Family plays a pivotal role in the recovery journey. We understand the importance of involving and supporting family members, and family support is an integral part of the treatment process. Discover resources, insights, and strategies to strengthen familial bonds and contribute positively to your loved one’s recovery. For more details, visit our Family Therapy page.

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Talking about Therapy

  • When you are preparing to talk to your loved one about their addiction, the first thing you should consider is making a list of what makes them worthy of getting better. Focusing on the positives of their character and not what they do wrong will have them open up more easily.
  • Many people who suffer from a substance use disorder do so quietly, and they are constantly under pressure, so you should take small steps to slowly allow them to accept their need for treatment.
  • Finding side gigs for them to enjoy, activities to participate in and hobbies to join in with you can make them open up and share their pain with you, allowing you into their world and helping you with the process of getting them admitted into our clinic.
  • If your loved ones are building a wall between you and them, then you may want to schedule a consultation with our therapists to consider the option of setting up an intervention. Our specialists will explain the process and benefits to you, and you can talk about the steps that await you.

Dos and Don’ts of Helping a Family Member with an Addiction


  • Do maintain your boundaries. Remember that you are also an important person who deserves love and respect.
  • Do encourage all attempts to seek the professional help that is right for your loved one.
  • Do encourage all attempts to attend fellowship meetings, such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Cocaine Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous or Gambler’s Anonymous.
  • Ask the Provy specialists about specific events and concerns you have.
  • Do speak with love, warmth and care. Let them know you’re there for them when they’re ready to get help.
  • Do educate yourself as much as possible about addiction.
  • Do look after yourself and take time for yourself, and practice self-care.
  • Help your loved one feel at home at the rehab by being there for them when they need to talk to someone, write to, or invite for therapy.


  • Do not neglect yourself or allow yourself to be mistreated.
  • Don’t believe that addiction and your loved one are the same thing. They are separate. Addiction is an illness of the brain, not a character flaw.
  • Do not make threats. Fear is not a good advisor for building trust.
  • Do not lecture or bring up the past. Look into the future.
  • Abstain from injecting jokes or making light-hearted comments about the consequences of addiction, substance consumption and the like.
  • Don’t force your thoughts and ideals onto your addicted loved ones. They need to create their own patterns.
  • Do not neglect their pain and experiences.
  • Do not intervene in a therapist’s speech during Family Therapy no matter how uncomfortable the topics may be
  • Do not engage in aggressive arguments and fights, instead walk away from a confrontation and come back when both sides have calmed down.
  • If your loved one is feeling overwhelmed, don’t continue the discussion but instead let them have a break and come back to it later.

Success Stories

Damian and Kateland’s Shared Story of Healing Together

having loved ones affected by addiction is a devastating endeavour, but sharing the treatment process with them and finding help to heal is an irreplaceable part of finding truth in recovery. While referring a loved one is sometimes a lonely challenge, if you too are suffering from the effects of addiction and need help finding a better path in life, we are here for you. Check out our guide to self-referring here.

With a Focus on Family and Relationships

We are proud to have helped thousands of people reach a better and healthier route during our 25+ years of active addiction treatment service.

Through our comprehensive addiction rehabilitation programmes, we will nurture your loved one’s appreciation for their own well-being and thirst for improvement, while also looking into finding out better-coping mechanisms and techniques for handling stressors.

Our family-focused therapeutic approach will allow you to look into the future, too, and refocus your own life around healthy habits in your relationship. We will bring your entire family unit up.

I will be forever grateful for the wonderful service and help provided by the project for helping my niece overcome a 12yr alcohol dependency in October 2021.
Sarah W

Sarah W
How do I start the conversation when referring a loved one to rehab?

We understand how difficult it can be to face the discussion alone. Rehab isn’t about blame or shame, it’s about helping your loved one gain control. We can help navigate this conversation by providing a compassionate and supportive environment that allows us to work together, contact us for support on approaching a friend or family member.

Will I get updates on my loved ones progress?

We are committed to involving family members as much as possible. With the consent of your loved one, family members have the opportunity to actively participate in the treatment process through family therapy.

My friend or family member has two addictions, can you help?

Patients that are suffering with dual diagnosis will have a 40 minute assessment to see if we can provide the necessary support. If this isn’t an option, we provide referrals to an appropriate facility, ensuring they get the help they need.

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