The Link Between Narcissistic Wounding and Addiction

Are you struggling with addiction or is it affecting someone you love? If so, you may be looking for a link that explains the challenges being faced and their origin. Any kind of abuse increases the likelihood of addictive behaviour developing and narcissistic wounding is no different. Exploring the relationship between narcissistic wounds and addiction is vital to our work as addiction treatment providers.

Narcissistic abuse can drive people towards addiction as a way to cope with their emotional turmoil. If you have experienced narcissistic injury, we want you to know that we’re here for you. The team’s ready to listen and eager to help you find your path to healing and recovery.

What Is Narcissistic Wounding?

Narcissistic wounding, also known as narcissistic injury, refers to the emotional or psychological harm that occurs when a person’s self-esteem or self-worth is significantly damaged due to interactions with a narcissist. Narcissistic wounding often results from rejection, humiliation, or manipulation. This emotional injury can lead to feelings of shame, self-doubt, anxiety, and depression. In some cases, narcissistic wounding can have long-lasting effects on a person’s mental well-being, potentially influencing their behaviour and choices in the future.

The Link Between Narcissistic Wounding and Addiction

In order to understand the link between narcissistic injury and addiction, we have to put ourselves into the shoes of people who have gone through this kind of trauma and have found solace in substance abuse.
Within our 25+ years of providing drug and alcohol addiction treatment for people from all walks of life, we have met many who come from abusive families, especially people trying to mend the harm done by narcissistic parents.

Let’s look together at “John’s” story. He grew up in a household where his father, “Richard,” was narcissistic and emotionally abusive. Richard constantly belittled John, criticised his achievements, and showed no emotional support or affection. During our sessions with “John,” we found that growing up with a narcissistic and emotionally abusive parent left him with profound feelings of inadequacy. He internalised the negative messages he received, believing that he was unworthy and incapable. The emotional pain from years of narcissistic abuse created a deep, long-lasting wound in John’s psyche. He felt constant emptiness, sadness and emotional distress, which blocked his path to achieving professional and relationship goals. Due to the resulting difficulties and to numb the emotional pain and self-doubt, “John” began experimenting with drugs and alcohol during his teenage years. The substances temporarily relieved his emotional turmoil and allowed him to escape from the harsh reality of his upbringing.

Over time, John’s substance use escalated, as he increasingly relied on drugs and alcohol to cope with his emotional wounds. In the case of drug addiction further eroded his self-esteem and self-control. He became trapped in a vicious cycle where the drugs and alcohol provided temporary relief. “John” came to us supported by his new partner, who was set to help him get better and keep their relationship safe from further addiction-related issues.

What Therapies Are Suitable for Addiction Related to Narcissistic Trauma?

Here are some addiction therapies and treatments offered by The Providence Projects:

1. Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy (CBT) helps people identify and change negative thought patterns and behaviours. It can assist in addressing the low self-esteem and self-destructive thought processes often resulting from narcissistic wounding.
2. Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT): DBT combines cognitive-behavioural techniques with mindfulness practices. It can be particularly effective for people struggling with emotional regulation, which is common in addiction-related emotional trauma cases.
3. Trauma-Informed Therapy: This approach acknowledges and addresses the underlying trauma often accompanying narcissistic wounding. Techniques such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) can be beneficial in processing and healing from traumatic experiences.
4. Group Therapy: Group therapy provides a supportive and empathetic environment where individuals can share their experiences and learn from others facing similar challenges. It can combat the isolation often associated with addiction.
5. Family Therapy: Family dynamics and relationships can be significantly affected by addiction. Family therapy can help repair and improve these relationships, providing crucial support during recovery.
6. Mindfulness-Based Therapies: Practices like mindfulness meditation can help people develop emotional awareness and regulate their emotions, which is particularly useful for those dealing with emotional wounds.
7. 12-Step Programme: The 12 Steps provide a structured framework for recovery and a sense of community. Our 12-step-based therapies are a valuable part of a treatment plan.
8. Holistic Therapies: Approaches such as yoga, art therapy, and acupuncture can complement traditional therapies, help individuals connect with their inner selves, and reduce stress.
9. Medication-Assisted Treatment (MAT): In some cases, medications can be used to manage withdrawal symptoms and cravings, especially in cases of substance dependence.
10. Rehabilitation Programmes: Our inpatient rehabilitation programmes offer structured environments where individuals can focus exclusively on their recovery. They often incorporate a combination of therapies tailored to individual needs.
11. Self-Help and Self-Care Practices: We encourage clients to develop healthy self-care routines, including exercise, nutrition, and sleep, which can be crucial for maintaining sobriety and overall well-being.

Finding Professional Help Is Just the First Step

Treating addiction related to narcissistic wounds requires a multifaceted approach. Combining evidence-based therapies with trauma-informed care, holistic approaches and support networks can address addiction’s root causes and empower recovery. Recovery from narcissism-related addiction is challenging, but with the right interventions and ongoing support, you can regain control, rebuild self-esteem, and develop healthier coping mechanisms.

Thankfully, “John’s” partner came to us on time, and we were happy to know they are living in their family home now, both enjoying a stable income and even recently announced that their first baby is on the way. These are the success stories we strive for. Even in the absence of spousal or family support, however, there are still opportunities for recovery. Every one of our clients benefits from our full commitment and extensive know-how. We will give you the full residential experience to help you heal from the trauma and long-term damage caused by narcissistic abuse in your past.
To get the help you need, contact The Providence Projects’ admissions team today.